Where do YOU want to go from here?

I once heard a wise person state that human beings are always in one of three situations; headed for a crisis, in a crisis or coming out of a crisis. Which one of those three they choose to belong to is a matter of personal choice...

Life brings us many roadblocks and crossroads, which in the moment they appear, may seem “bad” or limiting. Yet, each one is a gift to you… but only if you choose to accept it.

When something we are striving for is not manifesting it gives us an opportunity to reflect on our true motives and get more focused, authentic and creative with our efforts. When we are facing a crossroad, whether in our professional or personal lives, we are being presented with an opportunity to ask ourselves the most magnificent question; “Where do I want to go from here?”

This is a question asked by Spirit and it creates new awareness and allows creativity and motion to freely follow.

When we put things on the table and shine light on the issues that have been holding us back in life, we are truly creating something astonishing. Not only are we voluntarily facing our crossroad but we are courageously contributing to it and creating a set-point for a new beginning. It means we are ready to get REAL with ourselves and with the people in our lives and boldly face the BIG questions; “Where do I want to go from here?”… “What do I want in my life?”… “Who do I want to BE?”

Allow yourselve time to ponder those three questions and let them rest in your mind and spirit for a few days. Then, you can sit down with them and let the answers come out in writing. When you ask… the answer will appear. When the answer appears… the blueprint for your life starts falling into place.

Seven steps to rekindling and creating an open and loving relationship

1. Recommit to it wholeheartedly! You must decide that you truly want your relationship to work.

2. Reflect back on the things that made you fall in love with your spouse in the first place. If either of you have changed then look for qualities in your spouse that you are still attracted to, and acknowledge the great aspects that came into light later.

3. Be completely honest with your spouse. Let him or her know what you are feeling and thinking. If you have concerns in your life and/or about your relationship, share those concerns in an open and loving manner.

4. Communicate, communicate, communicate!!! Do not accuse, threaten or nit-pick. Those are wedges that will drive the strongest of relationships apart. Lack of communication is the reason relationships get stuck or start sliding backwards.

5. LISTEN! A solid relationship needs both partners to express themselves but more importantly to HEAR and understand what the other one is saying on a variety of subjects, without fear of judgment, rejection or being put down. Let the other person speak out before you read into what they are saying or give a response, and do not get stuck on single words or phrases and nit-pick on how the message is phrased or delivered. You can always ask for clarifications later and do so in an open and loving manner.

6. Change YOU & not your spouse. Accept that you cannot change your spouse, and realize that you do not have to wait for your spouse to change before you can start making changes for the better. Commit to practice the art of love and giving your relationship and your spouse truly focused time and attention. Put yourself in a loving frame of mind and say to yourself on a regular basis (and definitely prior to and during your communications with your spouse); I am open, loving and thankful.

7. Share YOU! Make yourself genuinely available to communicate and be intimate with your spouse and love and honor your relationship. Give your spouse what s/he wants the most; YOU! Share your story, your thoughts, fears, dreams, secrets, and hopes for the future. Your spouse is the one to whom you gave the key to your heart, but that heart can only be shared by your words and actions. The more we give of ourselves the stronger the bond between you gets and the more intimate and fulfilling the relationship becomes. All you have to do is give…

Taking Responsibility

The time comes in everyone’s life that we have to face the music and realize that, whether we like it or not, we ourselves are creating our reality. When we keep doing the same thing over and over again we can be considered mad to expect different results. When we keep making excuses and blame other people and external factors for the eventual outcome of something, then we are not only failing to take responsibility of our lives, but we are selling ourselves short and demonstrating a character trait common in people who fail to succeed in anything.
By accepting responsibility, we are giving the power back to us and shaping the outcome ourselves. We start creating versus reacting. You are and always will be the Powerful Creator of your Reality whether you are conscious of it or not. So it makes sense to ask ourselves; what is it that I am choosing to create?
It is only when you accept that everything you are or will be is up to you, that you will become skilled at ridding yourself of the unconstructiveness of excuse making. We all have free will, and this you know because this free will of yours, you exercise quite freely by doing what you actually “want” to be doing:) Your 'free will' means that you are fully responsible for all of your successes and failures and you are responsible for your own happiness or unhappiness.

This may feel like an enormous responsibility but in reality this is the exact blessing we are given to live out our human existence. When you truly choose to accept responsibility for the outcome of your life, both personally and professionally, you start to feel your power and you can even start playing this fun “game” with the choices you make because when you are present and deliberate in your choices there is virtually nothing that you cannot achieve and accomplish. YOU are the key for YOU to reach your ultimate goals. How exciting is that?! So why would you not want to have fun with that creative power of yours? Why would you not want to accept it and own it!?

Sometimes, we do not go for IT because we paralyze ourselves with fear of failure. Nobody likes to fail and nobody likes to be seen failing so we may make goals but then we create excuses and fill up a bag of “why’s” in case we do not succeed. We blame this or that, this person, that friend of mine, that client, my partner, my spouse, that enabler, this party, that game, that stress, that type of a week… and so on and so forth.

Yet, the truth is that the more responsibility you take, the more in control you are and the more control you have.. and the more likely you are to reach your goals.

Accepting responsibility for everything that happens in your life helps you find your answers and discover solutions more quickly, and in accepting responsibility you accept a willingness to develop your character, and in doing that the stronger you become as a person and your life is destined to become the life you always wanted to live.

Taking responsibility for your actions equals SUCCESS!

Are you ready to accept full responsibility?

Be + Do = Have

There is no need to wait on HAVING what it takes before you can DO what you want to DO and BE who you are meant to BE.

BE who you are!
DO what you love doing.
And HAVE the life you want to live.

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Living and Manifesting your Values

Within you lives the roadmap to your dreams. It comes to light in all the small things that you often take for granted, it lies in the collection of your deepest beliefs and values.

Have you ever wondered what your life would be like if you truly lived your values? What would it be like to not sweat about the big picture but instead clearly see and honor the small things? Have you ever asked your higher self what it is that is most important to you, what you truly value?

When we get real with our values it is so much easier to not sweat about the stuff that really does not matter that much, the actual small stuff that we repeatedly mistake for the big and important stuff. What would it be like to live without the endless mind chatter, shallow and superficial dreams, competition and eternal longing for external validation? What we usually think of as the small stuff is the actual big stuff!

To get some clarity on this topic, why not list out the things/topics that are truly important to you; your REAL and genuine values related to what kind of a human being you really are and would want to be. It does not matter whether you are currently living by those values or not. Just list them out. Then move on to answering the following 5 questions.

Five important questions to ask your higher SELF:

1. If you were always true to your true values, what would your life be like?
2. What kind of a person would you be?
3. What would you be teaching your children?
4. What would you want to leave behind for future generations of mankind?
5. What, to you, would be a truly valuable life and a life well lived?


An example of value statements:
I value all of life.
I believe in the pursuit of happiness.
In order to truly love others, you have to first love yourself.
Honor your family and all of your relationships and genuinely love your children.
Respect, love and honor your planet.
Be a positive role model for your children, and teach them well.
Lead by example, and lead in love.

List out the values that come to mind and genuinely resonate with you and get real with how many of them you are actually living by. The ones you are not living by can help explain any imbalance you may experience in your life.

There is ALWAYS room for improvement and nobody has to be 100%, one hundred percent of the time but getting real with what it is that you value will show you the way and help you manifest your true self.

What is the reason for you being YOU?

There is a reason for you being YOU. There is a reason your life has been the way it has been. There is a magnificent escalation to your life’s story. There is a reason you are where you are at in this very moment.

Life is about discovering and being your TRUE self. It is about your creativity. It is about who you are. It is about who you are being and becoming. It is about the gift that YOU have to give.

Perhaps it is time you ask yourself: What is the reason for me being ME? What do I want to create? What can I contribute?